I remember a time I wanted to put up on my WhatsApp status, the words, ‘A man away from the presence of God will never get proper instructions to lead you,’ from one of Mike Todd’s sermons on relationship goals.
I could already guess what some of my friend’s responses would be…”first of all, why is a man leading you in the first place?”
I could already guess this because even without wanting to admit it, I was thinking it too. I can make out a whole list of why, in order to justify myself and others; may be blame it on the society, my upbringing, social media and the like but I am well grown to know not to do that. In fact, I am well grown to know that if my mindset is as it was some few years ago, then I am the one with the problem.
Despite what the world says on submission, despite how many petitions are signed on gender equality; among plenty of knowledge the bible equips us with, lies this matter as well and it doesn’t matter whether you accept this or not, before arguing out your points, know that by wisdom, a house is built and through understanding, it is established, through knowledge, its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasure (Proverbs 24:3-4).
This topic is broad and putting all things to perspective including how much it has been perverted; may take years to exhaust. Having said that however, I would like to put a few points across.
It is beautiful and thoroughly motivating with a high boost in independence to see oneself as the woman who is clothed with strength and dignity and can so easily laugh at the days to come. (Proverbs 31:25)yet it is rare to accept that this same woman is called to be submissive to her husband so that, if he does not believe the word, he may be won over without words but by her behavior when he sees the purity and reverence of her life. (1 Peter 3:1-2). To the human mind, this seems unfair, to some extent, even diminishing; we’re however not called to be of this world and rarely are we called to easy tasks by God, but glory be to Him for His grace is sufficient and we can lean back and fully rely on Him.
As we play our God given role with respect to Him, don’t you agree that it takes a man in the presence of God to ponder this, “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” (Proverbs 31:10).
For if a man does not know the difference between the love of the world and the love of Christ, how will he know how to love you as Christ loved the church? (Ephesians 5: 25). How will he know that you’re worth far more than rubies? For if a man does not have honour and respect for God, how will he have honour and respect for you?
For if a woman is away from the presence of God, how can she speak with wisdom, having faithful instruction on her tongue? (Proverbs 31:26). For if a woman has no honour and respect for her husband, how can he have full confidence in her? How can he say he lacks nothing of value? (Proverbs 31:11).
It is not an error that in Ephesians 5:33, husbands are asked to love and wives, to respect and not the other way round. This is not to say that submission is putting the will of the husband before the will of Christ.
In as much as we’d like to go forth creating new ways to fit a today society, we need to remember not to let this Book of the Law depart from our mouths. We are asked to meditate on it day and night, so that we may be careful to do everything written in it. Then we will be prosperous and successful. (Joshua 1:8).
By His laws and not ours, can we erase the errors of our mindset.